sometimes God ruins your life

Lately, God is ruining my life. And I do mean ruining. Everything I once thought I wanted suddenly isn't what I want. The plans I've had for my life no longer exist. I still have plans, but they're different. The plans aren't mine at all. They're God's.

I've always had a love for foster care and adoption. I can remember being in my adolescence and dreaming about my life as an adult. My dream was to have a large ranch on the beach. And that large ranch would be used to house girls suffering and recovering from eating disorders. Or to house children who didn't have families. At that time, I didn't fully grasp the concept of foster care and adoption, but I still had a heart for it. God was placing dreams and visions and love for the marginalized and the forgotten; I just didn't realize it.

My heart has been swelling lately. I didn't think I would be ready for kids until I was at least 30. And I never knew if I would have a longing to hold a baby. I kind of thought I would always want to care for older children - children who were already potty trained. Because honestly? How do you even teach a child to use the toilet? I don't even know how I taught our dogs to go to the bathroom outside.

But God knew. He always knows. It's a bit annoying.

He knew that my heart would change. He probably cringed every time I said I would never want children. He also knew I would meet my husband, my perfect help mate who compliments me. He knew that things would come together in a timing that I will never fully comprehend.

I honestly feel an ache in my soul when I think about fostering and adopting. It brings tears to my eyes (and I'm not one to cry easily). It makes me feel like I will have a true and definable purpose. Almost like I was created to care for the forgotten and the marginalized.

Friends of ours are at the very end of being approved as foster parents, and they blessed us by asking if we would be willing to be approved as their alternate caregiver (someone who can care for the children in their home should the need arise). I didn't even ask Justin for his opinion; I simply said yes. It wasn't because I don't value his opinion. I do. But I knew what his answer would be.

On Tuesday morning, I sat down with the social worker in charge of approving our friend's home. We talked about my jobs and my life and my knee surgery. She kept asking questions about me and my husband. Because she wanted to know about our lives. Our story spoke to her.

But it wasn't our story. We play a part in it, but it's God's story. His story of fostering and adoption. His love for the least of these.

That day was a moment for me. It was as though God broke open the entire world and crashed into my living room to look directly in my face and say this is what you and Justin are created for.

When it's time, when we open up our home, we will love every single child with fierceness and joy. We will not replace their families, but they will become a part of our family. And we will love them for the rest of time.

While this has all been going on (God ruining our lives that is), I've been slowly making my way through the book 7: An Experimental Mutiny Against Excess. It's all hit me. How much I consume and waste. How much I have and yet think I need more. And while I'm still not perfect (Target and JC Penney can attest to that), I'm realizing just how much I have that I don't need.

It's not just stuff, though. Stuff is something I need less of, but what has truly gripped me about the book is just how much the CHURCH has. Last night, I nestled into our bed with my Kindle and resumed reading when this passage jumped out at me: "If the modern church held to its biblical definition, we would become the answer to all that ails society."

That truth is offensive. But it is true. We as the modern church have so much, too much, and we continue to want more and consume more. But we aren't giving back. We aren't taking care of the least of these the way the Bible calls us to.

I have spent so much time lost in my faith. I struggle with knowing what to share and how to share it. I struggle with loving on people without mentioning the gospel because people need to be loved more instead of talked to about Christ. I've felt lost in churches. Confused by what we are or aren't doing as Christians to serve.

I alone can't change the church. I alone can't make people care for others. But I can follow where God leads my husband and I. I can love my husband and love children who feel they aren't wanted. I can open up my heart and my home and feel every single thing.

When I started this blog, I didn't know what I was doing with it. I didn't really know what I was doing with my life. IT morphed into more of a weight loss blog, and while I still plan to write on that topic (once I'm able to exercise again!), I feel like God is leading me to document my faith and the works He is doing.

I'm not sure where this all will take us or this blog. I have dreams that God is placing on my heart right now - dreams that He is also placing on my husband's heart. And we are praying over those and seeking His guidance. I'll share when I can.

I'm so glad He's ruining our lives. I'm so glad I'm letting Him ruin my life. Because for the first time in a while, I feel like I have purpose. I feel like I am actually walking in the light.

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  1. Love love love this post. You are such an inspiration and you speak the truth. Very convicting.

  2. Such a great post. Love your blog! Love what God is doing in your life!

  3. beautiful and powerful!!

    He does know better,even if we have a hard time accepting that :)

    prayers coming your way!

  4. This is such a beautiful post and I am so excited to see what God does with your life and your marriage. I will be praying that God continue to give you direction and peace/clarity!

  5. LESLIE! I am so glad you poured your heart out. I understand your "sometimes God ruins your plans" OH TOO WELL. I'll keep you, your husband and your family in my prayers as you go through this process. A dear friend of mine fosters and I can't tell you what an incredible blessing it has been to their family as a whole. Amazing.

  6. Isn't it just CRAZY how His "ruins" are so much more beautiful than we initially dreamed up in the first place?! I relate to this post so much. Thank you for sharing... Can't wait to read more about your ruined plans! ;)
    xoxo J

  7. This is beautiful :) I love God's will for us, His plans and thoughtfulness. I love that He is able to use the least of us..God bless

  8. Today I googled "God wrecked my life" and found your article. I had googled this phrase because I feel as if my life is being de-constructed, so that I can answer the call to something that has haunted me since I was a child - to foster/adopt sibling groups and teens from the foster system.

    This is impractical; I'm single now. My kids are grown. I had my kids young, and this was supposed to be my youthful middle-age time in which to enjoy embracing life. Yet - everything, EVERYTHING, is pointing me toward adopting out of foster care. No matter how impractical. It keeps me up at night. I cannot, whatsoever, return to any other life - I know and understand that this is the path.

    Imagine my surprise, though, when I googled that phrase "God wrecked my life" and stumble onto your post, which was not only addressing the concept of God wrecking one's life to put us on track, but that you specifically mention foster-care. What a miracle it all is. Thank you so much.

    1. Thank you! It is a miracle.

      And do not let your marital status keep you from fostering or adopting. For many teen girls, they would prefer a single mom. And every child needs something different. There is no perfect time to foster or adopt.

      We're in the throws of fostering now. 11 months into fostering three toddlers to be exact after a few months fostering a teen mom and her daughter. Lord help us. It's the wildest, hardest, most exhausting, and most rewarding adventure God has ever placed me on.

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  10. But God only ever ruins lives. He never heals or repairs. He doesn't have good plans for us only more endless more ruining plus a bunch of empty promises.

    1. I have to completely disagree. Is there hurt? Yes. Do people make promises they don't keep? Yes. Has this been a long road for me? Certainly. But God has also been steadfast for me and has always kept promises - even if it is done in ways different than I think should be.



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